Thursday, July 26, 2007

It's very difficult to discuss.

This topic is pretty touchy for me, as I am torn as to how I should handle the situation. Some of you know about my youngest brother, Rees, some of you do not. Saying he is a handful would be the understatement of the century. He's very difficult to deal with. Spoiled, angry, volatile, uncontrollable, and generally unpleasant. It's not that I don't love him, I do, I just don't like him. Now, to the actual topic.

I had to go to Florida to help deal with the situation. In what way? Well, I had to be there. For support. Morally I suppose. I didn't really do anything. And it's not the support I was supposed to offer that bothers me.

It's actually being told I have to do it.

Some of you are aware of my hatred of being told that I must, have, or am obliged to do anything. No one has to do anything. There is no collection agency out there making sure that people return favors to others. No, these things are done on ones own ambitions.

But the real kicker is, even if I did owe some sort of favor, this is not it. I am Rees' brother, not his father, or mother, or third parent. I'm 22, I'm working hard in college to get shit done. I'm doing well. I don't cause trouble, I have no run-ins with the fuzz. I think the only thing that could be considered displeasing that I've done in the past two years is my car accident. But really, how bad is that? If at all. This is not my responsibility. In any regard. I will help Rees, sure, but I won't be taking days out of my summer vacation to just sit around in a place where I don't want to be.

This is something that I think is important. People(including me) are too often pushed into things we don't want and don't have to do. And we are made to feel guilty about it if we don't. I was. Apparently, my parents helping me go to college means I owe them my life. Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that what parents are supposed to do? Like, I mean, raise their children? Isn't that a rule somewhere?

I digress, start standing up for yourself. You don't have to do things you don't want to do. So don't. And don't feel bad about it. If these things are completely beyond your realm of responsibility, then don't worry about it. Because all that's happening now, is that you are helping other people's problems.

And that's what this family is doing, we are supporting Rees' issues.

Have a good weekend everyone. I'll have another update Monday. I know I've said it before, but I will try to make this a Monday, Wednesday, Friday thing.

Treat me like the sea, oh so salty and mean.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I feel this topic is to much to comment on. I just wish him some peace and happiness with his life in the future. Also people need to understand everyone has a busy life.